It turns out procrastination is not typically a function of laziness, apathy or work ethic as it is often regarded to be. It’s a neurotic self-defense behavior that develops to protect a person’s sense of self-worth.
You see, procrastinators tend to be people who have, for whatever reason, developed to perceive an unusually strong association between their performance and their value as a person. This makes failure or criticism disproportionately painful, which leads naturally to hesitancy when it comes to the prospect of doing anything that reflects their ability — which is pretty much everything.
But in real life, you can’t avoid doing things. We have to earn a living, do our taxes, have difficult conversations sometimes. Human life requires confronting uncertainty and risk, so pressure mounts. Procrastination gives a person a temporary hit of relief from this pressure of “having to do” things, which is a self-rewarding behavior. So it continues and becomes the normal way to respond to these pressures.
Particularly prone to serious procrastination problems are children who grew up with unusually high expectations placed on them. Their older siblings may have been high achievers, leaving big shoes to fill, or their parents may have had neurotic and inhuman expectations of their own, or else they exhibited exceptional talents early on, and thereafter “average” performances were met with concern and suspicion from parents and teachers.” —
This totally justifies every excuse I’ve been giving myself from not doing that thing I’m supposed to do.
Here’s a video of last night’s show: “Marmalade: Unafraid,” the improvised two-person show I do with the amazing and delightful Kathryn Dunn.
When I think of how wonderfully fun and exciting…
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Benji and I decided that for the new year we’d like to make a talk show in which we discuss the issues of the day, at least as they pertain to a six-year-old. Since we were wearing our pajamas at the time, we decided to call it Benji and Daddy in their…
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I’m doing research for a project involving the history of transportation in New York City. Naturally, one can’t discuss such a history without talking extensively about Robert Moses.
I’m a big eBooks fan, but unfortunately, the books I was looking for on this particular topic aren’t available in electronic form. I received the physical manifestations of these books today, and I instantly realized yet another advantage of eBooks.
Thousand page tomes aren’t quite so intimidating in electronic form. Yikes!